Is This Love? A Mothers Plea.
By Carol Gobey. (Original Source)
This book is based on a true story – one of many, I believe – about the heartache of a mother who found out with horror that the father of their children is in reality sorely lacking in one of the corner-stones of normal, ethical fatherhood. while disguised as a civilised, principled, and socially and financially successful man. A man of good standing in his community; but with a Jekyll and Hyde double personality. His children confide in their mother, describing his acts and behaviour towards them – that exposes what must be one of the most despicable abominations and abnormalities imaginable.
I shared with horror her hazardous journey through the institutions of society that are supposed to fight this evil – the police; the child welfare organisations; the courts. And finally had to arrive at the same conclusion that she did: That Western society per se seems to be turning a blind eye to this type of monstrosity. That people do not want to leave their comfort zones, get involved, and speak out for justice towards innocent children. That the Justice System in Western countries – for the most laudable reasons like individual human rights; innocence until proven guilty; standard court procedure; tangible proof of abuse and the like – seems to be biased in favour of the perpetrators at the expense of the victims.
The book exposes the totally incomprehensible situation that in the course of charges having been laid at the police in two Western countries (the country where the parents reside and the country they originate from and are still citizens of), and two court cases later – one in each country – the children have neither been extensively examined physically by specialists qualified to do so, nor comprehensively evaluated emotionally by qualified welfare officials and psychiatrists in their mother language. At the time under discussion, they were only respectively five, three-and-a-half, and two years old.
My wish – no, my prayer – is that other women will come forward and tell their stories so that Western society will hopefully wake up to the fact that we are failing our Future by failing to protect our children from this scourge.
To this effect, a Facebook page has been created that people can join and tell their stories – and spread the word via the social media.
Unity is strength. Let us show the world the magnitude of this problem. Let us make them aware that there is no time to waste – being left in those circumstances for too long, children struggle to fully recover and become normal, balanced and joyful citizens of our civilised world.
Using the title of the book, the Facebook page is called “Is THIS Love – a mother’s plea”.